The book Food Saved Me was a balm to my weary worn-out self.
I finished this book and took this picture sitting at a surgery center for the second surgery my family has dealt with recently. My family’s third surgery in the last eighteen months and probably the twelfth ( or more ) in the last six years.
Outside of current events, my family has had a long draining six years of one medical issue and diagnosis after another. Just as we get through one thing, another issue comes up with someone else.
I wrote this post out and have since debated if I should share it.
I let my husband and kids read it before I posted it. The struggle of what to share and what to keep private is often so hard online. But I know how lonely this journey can feel, so I want to help others on a similar journey feel less alone
I bought the book Food Saved Me not really sure what to expect. I know who Danielle Walker is and that she writes grain-free, dairy-free, refined sugar-free recipes, but I have not followed much of her story.
Because of my daughter’s nut, peanut, sesame allergy, most of her recipes don’t work for us, but I do know the importance of food and health and decided to give the book a try.
I fully expected this book to be heavily anti-medicine and very pro-natural medicine.
That wasn’t at all what the book was about. I actually think they got the title wrong on this book. This book is about so much more than food.
More than once as I read this book, I had tears streaming down my face. I felt like the author understood. She shares hope in the midst of a painful disease. She admits food has saved her, but she also admits medicine has to.
My family has often felt so out of place over the years. We have realized that food plays a big part in how well we can live life, but we aren’t anti-medicine.
I can’t even begin to say how alone we have felt in this journey.
I have left so many conversations with well-meaning family and friends feeling discouraged. The guilt that we were not doing the right thing or eating the right thing or relying on God enough, was brought on by people, who were convinced they had the right food, supplement, or some other natural remedy that would help us.
They were convinced their knowledge would help cure us, and often a lecture about all we were doing wrong followed.
My personality is such that I often listened, saying little, and left with a heaviness that is hard to describe. This is exactly why this book was a balm to my soul.
Danielle Walker gets the balance my family has tried to walk over the years. Food can help make your life better, but there are many times food won’t cure you.
This book reassured me that you can use food to heal certain things and to live a better quality of life, but it is also okay to rely on medicine and medical providers.
This book made me feel less alone on this road of mixing food and medicine.
The reality is that food can make us healthier, but there are many things it won’t cure.
Food can help my kid be healthier, but it won’t cure a genetic heart condition or connective tissue disease that they will have to deal with for life.
Eating gluten-free has improved my health and made my asthma manageable, but the reality is that I would have died a long time ago without the medication I take daily for it.
Eating gluten-free, dairy-free, and/or sugar-free helps manage the chronic pain that some in my family deal with, but it won’t cure the disease that causes the pain.
Eating a certain way can help improve my child’s digestive tract, but it won’t cure the autoimmune disease that affects the digestive tract.
Food may help improve the quality of our life living with a disease, but most of the time it won’t cure it.
There will always be flares. There will always be difficulties. They might happen occasionally. Or they might occur often. But they will happen.
The disease doesn’t disappear just because it is being managed.
I posted recently on Facebook and Instagram how challenging, and at times discouraging, I have found the online food and health world. It is harsh and critical.
It lacks grace and understanding. It is often one extreme or the other. One side discounts the importance that food and lifestyle can make while the other side often trashes medicine and the doctors that save our lives.
What I have realized is that God has given us both food and medicine to navigate the path he has given us.
I might never understand the path that God has chosen for us, but I do know that He gives us the means to navigate it with both food and medicine. And for that, I am thankful.
For us and many others, it is a balance of food and medicine. I have learned to be okay with that, and if you are navigating a similar path, I want you to be okay with it too.
I don’t want to just travel down this road God has given us, I want to learn to navigate it well. I want to grow from it. I want to find joy in the journey, because yes, there is joy even in the pain.
What this book, Food Saved Me, reminded me of, is that I want to be helpful and not hurtful. I want to listen more than lecture. I want to share our journey while realizing that yours might look different.
I want others to know that they are not alone. There are others out there walking the road of letting food and medicine help them because both are gifts from God that we can be thankful for.
Cheri A.
Thanks for the post. I’m sorry that you and your family have been dealing with so much. Very good point about needing both food and medicine too! People mean well, but most need to learn that less means more.
I have dealt with this too, and we’ve had a lot happen in my family I’m the last six years. Hang in there!
Lynn
Thank you! None of us are immune from problems in life, so much of it depends on our attitudes, both towards life and others. Most people do mean well. I am sorry you have had to deal with a lot too.
Cathy
I just finished reading your post. I’m sorry to hear about your families troubles.
I really appreciate all the gluten free recipes you post. I love every one I use.
Wishing you and your family the best. 🙏🏼 Thank you.
Lynn
Thank you! I am so glad that you have found my gluten free recipe helpful.
Kathy
I’m so sorry you have felt judged. I need to be more careful when I’m trying to help others by sharing some natural options. The things you’ve shared that your family has to avoid makes it hard. My son’s GF has a peanut allergy, and it makes me so nervous when she is in my home. I do not want to harm her. I also know I’ve made incredible progress with my disease through my food choices – to the extent that I’ve been off the meds for over 10 years with no symptoms recurring. Yet I’ve tried to help others, and they haven’t had the same results. I try to remember each of our bodies are different. Thank you for sharing. I hope this will help me remember to gently offer ideas, but to be very careful to never condemn medicine. There are definitely times when it is lifegiving.
Lynn
Thank you! I am so glad you have been able to go off meds! I definitely think food and natural things, supplements etc. have helped us. We would be much worse without them, it is the balance that I so often see lacking. I think so much of it is the attitude you mentioned. Going through all of this has helped me realize that when it comes to a lot of things I need to listen more and share less. And I totally understand the stress of cooking for someone with a peanut allergy!
Aly
Just wanted to give you a hug.
{{{{Hugs}}}}
My family deals with medical and mental health issues. It’s a black hole that sucks the life out of you. Very hard, but try to take care of yourself! 🙏🏻❤️🩹
Lynn
Thank you! Hugs to you too!
Sarah
Thank you so much for sharing your family’s journey.
I look forward to reading the book as I do many of your recommendations.
Sheila
I follow your book blog and so many of the books I read are ones you review. I’ve followed this blog for so many years! This post kind of hit me because I was just diagnosed with a connective tissue disease last week. I’ve been very hesitant to google things, because I’m honestly afraid to. I’ve always been super active, and planned to spend as much of my long anticipated (hopefully in 4 years) retirement hiking all the places I can. I’m working hard at leaning into and trusting God in this. I eat pretty healthy, but have no eating restrictions. I’m wondering how food might help manage this disease. I’ll have to read this book.
Lynn
Thank you for being such a long time reader! The author of Food Saved Me doesn’t deal with connective tissue disease, but you will probably find her journey helpful or at least interesting. I am so sorry you were diagnosed with a connective tissue disease. It is a tough one. As far as the connective tissue disease there are food and supplements that I think have helped the pain that comes with the disease and makes it more manageable on a daily basis. I think it is finding what works for you because everyone is different. Feel free to email me if you want. I would be glad to share more in an email about our journey with connective tissue disease. lynnskitchenadventures @ gmail.com